Sell More By Creating Receptive Prospects

How are salespeople usually described? You typically hear words like “self-centered,” “pushy,” and even “untrustworthy.”

While we may not hear these words when face-to-face with an actual prospect, we can probably all agree that prospects are initially guarded, untrusting or more simply put, unreceptive to one degree or another. In other words, there is a natural tension that exists between salespeople and prospects.

The symptom of this low or lack of receptivity is reluctance for prospects to open up to sales people, which is what we need in order to best serve them and to be successful ourselves.


Receptivity Matters

This is why one of the cornerstone principles we coach sales people on is the Cornerstone (Receptivity) Principle:

When someone is emotionally “closed,” you cannot persuade them with logical arguments. In fact, when attempting to persuade an emotionally closed person, they become even more closed.

Therefore: Receptivity of the prospect has more impact on your ability to influence than the message.


3 Reasons Why Receptivity Matters:

  1. Prospects are more willing to openly share their challenges, needs, objectives, etc.
  2. We get a deeper understanding of the prospect,  which leads to larger sales opportunities.
  3. Prospects are more open to our recommendations.


So, how do we make prospects more receptive? 

Ask yourself these two questions:


Question #1:

Does the Prospect Have a Choice?

The beginning of every sales process is like the beginning of a tug-a-war match. It’s like there is an invisible rope – one end held by the sales person wanting the prospect to listen to what they have to say, and the other end held by the prospect that is not entirely comfortable and wants to pull away from the interaction. Just like the few seconds before the start of a real tug-a-war match, there is tension on the rope (i.e. low or no receptivity), in this invisible tug-a-war match.

As a sales person, any attempt to sell our solution without the trust of the prospect, a proverbial “pull on our end of the rope,” can result in a corresponding pull back on the prospect’s end. The more we pull, the more prospects’ tighten their grip, dig their heels in and pull back – i.e. become less and less receptive.

Prospects don’t want to be dragged into a sales process. They want the freedom to choose whether or not to take part in a sales process. When we pull the rope, we are dragging them into our sales process.

And at some point, after all the back and forth, the “tug-of-war,” prospects will find a way to remove themselves from this interaction, and future ones – no returned phone calls, missed appointments, etc.

The less we pull the rope, the more relaxed and receptive prospects get. Since prospects will not drop their end of the rope first, the key is to stop pulling and simply, Drop-the-Rope®.

The goal is to reduce the tension at the outset of interactions with prospects and increase their receptivity. If we eliminate the tension, we create more open conversations with honest, emotional answers that allow us to better serve prospects, while also cultivating more and larger sales opportunities.

Here are a few examples of how to Drop the Rope:

“Could I ask you a couple of questions to learn more about you and your objectives to see if my products/services are a fit for you?”

“My products and services might not be a fit for you, so do you mind if I ask you a few questions to understand your goals and see if I might be able to help?”


Question #2:

Are You Other-Centered®?

The majority of the public perceives salespeople as pushy and self-centered. The self-centered part, by the way, is not inherent because we are salespeople, it’s because we are people.

In most people, lives what comedian Brian Regan refers to as a “Me Monster.” (if you have not seen this clip on YouTube, it is well worth the time). The ”Me Monster” is that part of us that wants to brag about themselves, has a “one-upper” story for every scenario, thinks that they are more interesting than anyone else at the table,  or wants to be the center of attention.

And, it is natural for many of us to become less receptive to those who only talk about themselves, even though, admittedly or not, most of us like to do it.

Have you ever found yourself listening to a prospect and planning what you are going to say as soon as their lips stop moving? Have you mentioned a product you have that can solve all of a prospect’s problems after only a few minutes of conversation?

Our challenge is to keep our “Me Monster” in check and get prospects talking more about themselves in a conversation, so that we can truly understand where, when and how we can help them.

We call this Taking-the-Trip® – fully understanding the prospect’s perspective before we share our own.

Here is one of Dale Carnegie’s Principles for Enhancing Relationships: 

“Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.” 

Carnegie goes on to sum up this principle and Taking-the-Trip® with the words, “A business runs on information… how we listen says volumes about how we think.”

By sincerely seeking to understand a prospect and truly listening to what they are saying, we are letting them know we are Other-Centered, not self-centered (i.e. we don’t have “commission breath”). 

Once we are perceived as Other-Centered, prospects begin to trust us more and become more receptive to working with us.



The Takeaway

If you can effectively Drop-the-Rope® and Take-the-Trip®, you will find yourself with prospects that are more willing to openly share their needs, challenges and objectives, get larger sales opportunities and have prospects who are more willing to embrace your recommendations.


What’s Next?


ASLAN teaches sellers an easier, better way to gain access & influence unreceptive customers, by eliminating the hard sell.

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